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One way that depression manifests in adolescence that is not just "normal" teen behavior

10/26/2015

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Depression in adolescence: Acting out
Last time, I spoke about depression and adolescence in general, listing 5 insights that every parent needs to know. Today, I want to talk about one common way that depression manifests itself during teenage years that will help you recognize the signs and take action early.
Specifically, I want to talk about depression and acting out. We've heard the expression "my kid is acting out" many times but what does it really mean and how does it relate to depression? Let's keep going.
As I explain in detail in a blog post on What does acting out mean and what can you do to help?,
acting out is your child's way of trying to communicate or express something through action that is impossible to communicate through words; their unique way of trying to cope with thoughts, feelings or experiences that are overwhelming to them.

Often, one of the reasons why teenagers act out is that they are trying to compensate with loud, noisy, action-oriented and risky behaviors on the outside for the sad, hurtful and self-reproachful feelings they are experiencing on the inside. Simply put, they engage in activities in an attempt to make themselves feel better when they are in fact feeling depressed, sad and overwhelmed.
What are some behaviors that adolescents may do in an attempt to feel better that may be the result of underlying feelings of depression? We can divide them into two general categories: behaviors that express aggression towards others and behaviors that express aggression towards oneself.

Aggression towards others can be:
1) verbal aggression towards others: 
  • yelling,
  • screaming,
  • verbal abuse - being generally mean-spirited, offensive and even
  • bullying others explicitly or implicitly through online interaction and social media,
  • frequent arguments with friends and family members
or
2) physical aggression towards others: 
  • kicking, biting (usually for small children)
  • hitting,
  • getting into fights,
  • throwing objects at others
  • threatening violence or intimidating others

Aggression towards the self is a bit more subtle and requires that adults pay close attention to what's happening with their teen. Aggression towards the self manifests itself in the following behaviors but is certainly not limited to them:
  • self-injuring
  • drinking or abusing drugs
  • sexually promiscuous behavior
  • self-sabotage by not caring for academic performance, for example
  • putting oneself in potentially dangerous situations:
    • staying up late at night,
    • communicating with older people online,
    • engaging in sexually charged conversations online, sexting, etc.
    • getting involved in abusive relationships with others
All of these behaviors are sure signs that something may not be feeling quite right for your adolescent child and that they are trying to cope with it the best way they know how. I am not saying that every teen, who engages in these behaviors is depressed because as I keep repeating, every person is unique, and the meaning of one symptom for one will not be the same as the meaning of the same symptom for another.
The best way to try and understand what may be going on with you or your teen is to consult a professional, where in psychoanalytic psychotherapy, together, you can begin to decipher the meaning of what's going on and hopefully feel better as a result. For the rest of you, I hope this post sheds some light on the most common way that depression manifests itself in adolescent, namely through acting out.


If you have any thoughts or questions, please, leave me a comment in the comment section below or write me an email. I'd be happy to talk more about it.
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    I specializes in counseling troubled children and adolescents, who face behavioral and emotional challenges at home and at school. My mission is to empower, support and guide children, adolescents and their parents to a happy and healthy family.  

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